Once in a while we actually learn something as we grow older. By ‘something’ I do not mean reading, writing and arithmetic. We may call it psychology or a principle in living.., I call it maturity. For example, all through life we meet people who still blame their parents for their pain, their success or failure, their hostility toward God and church.
How sad it is to hear a 60 year old say, ‘my parents made me go to church and I promised myself I would not go or take my children.’ It reminds one of a quotation by Oscar Wilde: ‘children begin by loving their parents-then they begin to judge them. Rarely, if ever, do they forgive them.’ That, like everything else, is not true in all cases of parents and children, but it is with many. The bottom line is immaturity on the part of the person who blames his parents. Perhaps his/her parents did hurt them; they are human. The important fact is the ‘child’ is human, as well, and have made mistakes just as the parents.
Maturity is accepting and if need be, forgiving. Maturity means to grow up and go forward in life with the best of characteristics, especially being accountable for one’s own life and attitudes and never blaming another. Blaming means bitterness; bitterness means not forgiving; not forgiving means immaturity.
Those thoughts are from 1 Corinthians 13: 4-13
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
